Why Are You Funny?

Some people are scared of laughter.  They're scared of those memories.  There's a memory of the carnival's sad clown with the grotesque yellow-toothed smile and blood curdling laugh that sent children running.  There's a memory of the high-pitched nervous laugh somewhere in the crowd of funeral attendees when family spoke of the deceased.  There's a memory of a creepy bald man at a training session that bawled like a cow laughing from his own joke when no one else made a sound.  Those memories of that laughter scare people.

People get scared of laughter and they stop laughing.  People stop laughing and there's no diaphragmatic spasms; no jiggling bellies.  There's no ha-ha-ing turned to breathlessness, no cackling turned to coughing.  There's no mouth contortions turned to drooling and choking.  There's no elation in the eyeballs or clamping eyelids turned to tears.  There's no wretching pain from laughter whatsoever.

No, nothing is funny and there's no physical pain.  Problem is when nothing is funny, the emotional pain from scary memories of laughter etch themselves deeper into the core of the soul.  Etched fear in the soul slowly eradicates joy until everything seems tragic.  The focus on tragedy results in wretching emotional pain.

Yes, wretching emotional pain results when there's no wretching physical pain.  You feel both types of pain because of the neurofeedback system that exists in your body and mind.  There will always be both emotional pain and physical pain.  Nature provides this type of neurofeedback for transmission of warning signals.  The warning signals help you help yourself.  What helps you can also hurt you.  You can't change nature, so what do you do?

You use physical pain to eradicate the emotional pain.  Once the emotional pain has been eradicated, the memory is still available for recall.  The memory is there, but the pain has been relocated.  Pain is not funny, but the dynamic of pain can be painfully funny.  A painfully funny situation opens the gate for release of the unfunny.

Why are you funny?  Do you have a big nose or a contorted mouth?  Is your hair frayed and out of control?  Do you have abnormally large feet?  Maybe you don't know what to say or how to act around the deceased.  Maybe people look down at their watches when you try to tell a joke.  Maybe your own fears are painfully funny.

Identify your own quirks and find ways to laugh at them.  Look for comedy sketches that capitalize on these quirks.  Keep looking for your comedy.  When you laugh until it hurts, you've created the gate of release.  Talk about the comedy in these quirks and fears and how you relate.  People will laugh in wretching pain.